We have been raised reading fairytales about finding our Prince Charming, and later in life watching romantic movies about finding our soulmate, getting married, having children and living happily ever after. These ideal unions we are Brainwashed with, imprint on our souls and our hearts; although we know they are products of creative imagination.

Hence, we expect something magical to happen in our romantic lives; but magic often differs from life reality. Having our mind in the clouds can set us up for disappointment, heartbreak and resentment. 

These fairytales place happiness outside of ourselves; we believe that another person is responsible to make us happy. Yet, our happiness is located in us. We are responsible and in control of our own bliss. We need to bring the control of our happiness within our reach and control. This will empower us instead of waiting for our lucky day to turn our life around. Otherwise, we will feel perpetually at the mercy of Cupid and Prince Charming showing up.

If we pay attention at what is happening in our communities, we can easily spot the aforementioned emotional trend. In Los Angeles 10% of women are divorced, that’s one in ten, with numbers running even higher in the “magical” realm of Hollywood and celebrity circles.

What makes a marriage work? How can we produce healthy, loving and emotionally stable marital relationships? A good compass of how to accomplish a loving relationship is through paying attention on what doesn’t: co-dependency, lack of boundaries, dishonesty, cheating, unresolved psychological trauma, amongst many others. There seems to be a common denominator in most cases of unfulfilling, painful partnerships: one of the partners of this sacred union is often experiencing dissatisfaction with life or feels disconnected from his/her life purpose. This will inevitably affect the couple, sometimes sadly their children as well.

How do you know you are ready for the next step in your relationship? How can you tell if it’s time to say “Yes”? If you find yourself struggling with mental health issues, or feel that personal bliss is elusive that could be a sign of an underlying psychological trauma, maybe you need to work on yourself, before you take on the role of a husband or of a wife. No one can “fix” you but you. Getting into therapy does not only improve your current life situation, but also sets the foundation for a happy future, healthy relationships and achieving your personal and professional goals.

Psychotherapy can offer that future to you, alongside other tools that help shed off your trauma and psychological mechanisms that are no longer loving to you. Hypnotherapy, Shamanic Journeys, Meditation and Energy Healing can be an ally in your journey of creating your dream life. Manifesting the potentiality of the life you dreamt of as a child, something that resembles a fairytale but is grounded in reality is possible for all of us, all you have to do is make the choice.

If you want to begin your healing journey feel free to contact me at askmariamicha@gmail.com or call me at +1 (323) 678 1230.